Jess Glynne's new video for Don't Be So Hard On Yourself goes hand in hand with the message: a masterpiece!
Jess Glynne's message comes as a response to people that are used to living a life of personal subjugation and self-imposed restrictions. Of course such a life contributes at creating a strong and solid character, but it often strains a person and wears it out of motivation and optimism.
People have been used to say "don't judge". Don't extend your critic onto others. People usually say "no-one's perfect, so don't judge". That's a big sophism. You don't have to be perfect in order to judge. You judge any betrayal of what society holds to be virtue, rule, truth. We value life, so we ban people that kill because we ourselves don't kill. We value personal property, so we judge people that steal because we ourselves don't steal. Of course you can judge someone. You'd better!
This example will help you see what I mean:
"'Why so hard?', the kitchen coal once said to the diamond. 'After all, are we not close kin?' Why so soft? O my brothers, thus I ask you: are you not after all my brothers? Why so soft, so pliant and yielding? Why is there so much denial, self-denial in your hearts? So little destiny in your eyes? And if you do not want to be destinies and inexorable ones, how can you one day triumph with me? And if your hardness does not wish to flash and cut through, how can you one day create with me? For all creators are hard. And it must seem blessedness to you to impress your hand on millennia as on wax. Blessedness to write on the will of millennia as on bronze — harder than bronze, nobler than bronze. Only the noblest is altogether hard"
Jess Glynne's example comes as a synthetic approach to whatever extreme you wish to adopt. Either if it's judge and be hard on others because you care about them, because you want them to be better at what they do, or don't judge, because they'll ultimately find truth and peace on their own(there is a chance things won't happen this way, though), judging yourself isn't bad, doing it too harshly can be harmful for your future affairs. We do thrive on self-esteem, don't we? "Learn to forgive, learn to let go / Everyone trips, everyone falls". Her words are miraculous, but they should be taken for granted. We shouldn't always rule our lives by one statement only, so we shouldn't be a walking impersonation of Jesus, nor should we be a replica of Nietzsche (by the way, those were his words I quoted before), nor should we learn to forgive and\or not be so hard on ourselves BEFORE we've actually been hard on ourselves. Some hide behind John 8, are reproachable people but don't want to be judged, others choose to lead without having any personal value (exception from my Nietzsche quote), others choose not to be hard on themselves, thus leading a life of laziness and inactivity. The correct attitude is in the middle, you know? Jess Glynne:
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